Identity is not a bunch of little cubbyholes stuffed respectively with intellect, race, sex, class, vocation, gender. Identity flows between, over, aspects of a person. Identity is a river – a process.
Gloria Anzaldúa (via megamindinhd)
Cleaning while listening to music
Cleaning without listening to music:
Life without music would be a tragedy in so many ways….
Some days I feel like Beyonce and some days I feel like Rihanna…
When You're Mad
My jam of the week.
The Best Birth Control In The World Is For Men by Jon Clinkenbeard
If I were going to describe the perfect contraceptive, it would go something like this: no babies, no latex, no daily pill to remember, no hormones to interfere with mood or sex drive, no negative health effects whatsoever, and 100 percent effectiveness. The funny thing is, something like that currently exists.
The procedure called RISUG in India (reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance) takes about 15 minutes with a doctor, is effective after about three days, and lasts for 10 or more years…
Oh, and when you do decide you want those babies, it only takes one other injection of water and baking soda to flush out the gel, and within two to three months, you’ve got all your healthy sperm again.
The trouble is, most people don’t even know this exists. And if men only need one super-cheap shot every 10 years or more, that’s not something that gets big pharmaceutical companies all fired up, because they’ll make zero money on it (even if it might have the side benefit of, you know, destroying HIV).
this makes me angry becos, you know, IT WILL NEVER CATCH ON AND IT FUCKING SHOULD
African American adolescents tend to have more success in school if their parents instill in them a sense of racial pride, reducing their vulnerability to the effects of racial discrimination from teachers and peers.
Martin & Gina. classic.
Rape has become endemic in South Africa, so a medical technician named Sonette Ehlers developed a product that immediately gathered national attention there. Ehlers had never forgotten a rape victim telling her forlornly, “If only I had teeth down there.”
Some time afterward, a man came into the hospital where Ehlers works in excruciating pain because his penis was stuck in his pants zipper.
Ehlers merged those images and came up with a product she called Rapex. It resembles a tube, with barbs inside. The woman inserts it like a tampon, with an applicator, and any man who tries to rape the woman impales himself on the barbs and must go to an emergency room to have the Rapex removed.
When critics complained that it was a medieval punishment, Ehlers replied tersely, “A medieval device for a medieval deed.”
- Half the Sky, Nicholas Kristof
This woman is fucking brilliant
Confronting people who have hurt you is difficult and anxiety provoking, but it’s absolutely necessary. Maybe you don’t want to speak up because you’re afraid of being judged and ostracized. Or maybe you’re afraid to use your voice because you don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings or make waves. You might even stay silent because you aren’t entirely sure your feelings are valid or worth sharing, so you keep them to yourself in hope that they’ll fade and resolve themselves. But the truth is that when you hold in how you feel, you aren’t helping the other person or the situation, and you definitely aren’t helping yourself. The only thing your silence does is perpetuate your hurt and prevent you from healing and moving on. I know it’s scary, but you need to be open and honest about your feelings. You need to use your voice and talk about what’s bothering you. Your feelings are important and they matter. You matter, and your happiness matters. You can’t compromise your wellbeing for the sake of protecting other people’s feelings. You can’t silence your voice if it means fueling your pain. You have to start taking care of the things that matter. You have to start taking care of you.
Daniell Koepke (via internal-acceptance-movement)